Decisions, Decisions

Boy are they hard! I wish all decisions were as easy as choosing between chocolate and sprouts. Whilst I love both, chocolate would win hands down for me!

So I have come to the conclusion that I need to start thinking more seriously about coming to a decison as to what I am going to do about uni/work. Currently I am studying a Bachelor of Education full time and whilst I find it somewhat… enlightening!? And can very much apply it to my life at the moment, with my daughter. I am not *enjoying* it per se.

So I need to check out my options and somehow decide what I am going to do to ensure my daughter and I have the best future possible and we have enough money for the things we need {it would be FAB if we had some money for *some* of the things we want too}.

I guess I should start with what my options are.

1. Stay with Bach Education FT and no job and look forward to a job and money in 2014.
2. Stay with Bach Education but do it PT and get a FT job. {though that poses a problem around pracs}
3. Switch to Bach Business (accelerated) FT and finish in 2 years
4. Switch to Bach Business PT and get a FT job
5. Pick a different Bach {i.e. one that I think would be more “me” even if it doesn’t necessarily guarantee a certain income but one that I know I will enjoy} and choose to do it either PT with a job or FT without a job.

Well, that is what I have come up with so far. I think I’ll do a pros/cons list tonight and then focus on the two most likely choices using De Bono’s thinking hats.

Opinions, thoughts or considerations are welcome!

Ten Commandments

I am not a particularly religious person. I believe there is a God but I do not have a relationship with Him. I guess I do not know really know how to go about it all. But that is not why I am writing this!

I am {so very} sick of hearing about house rules- it sounds so negative, so restrictive, so un-nuturing. My social worker and I were talking the other day and we were doing some brainstorming to try and define my ideals and philosophies- she asked me to write down my own set of familial commandments. I had to think of 10 things begining with ‘Thou Shalt Not’ that applied to my family. Ummm, hard! I came up with stupid, uninspired and down right negative commandmants such as ‘Thou Shalt Not Yell’ {pfft!}

I went on to explain that I often find it easier to write these sorts of things in a positive light, and she let me do so- it was so much easier! I got 10 out in no time at all and it is something I would feel proud displaying and portraying in my home. Here they are;

Our Ten Commandments:
1. Be Individual
2. Love one another
3. Respect one another
4. Be kind and gentle
5. Speak positively and with encouragment
6. Help one another
7. Actively Listen to one another
8. Spend quality time together
9. Own your feelings
10. Smile Often

Eskimo Kisses

I encourage all families to write their own set of Ten Commandments- keep them positive, involve the kids, make sure they centre around what your core belief as a family is but above all have fun! Too often these days we are telling children NOT to do things or focusing on what they are doing WRONG- try something different! Make a difference to your family!

The Thinking Hats

De Bono's Thinking Hats

I have some confessions to make. I am indecisive at best. Procrastination is one of my nearest and dearest. I dream too much. I find it hard to be in the now. I can’t remember the last time I felt I had a purpose.

Many people, after reading that would probably call me disorganised and not much of a do-er; you’d be right. But I am taking steps to change that. I am currently studying a Bachelor of Education and one of the thinking tools that has cropped up a lot has been De Bono’s Thinking Hats. A marvelous tool, if you ask me, but I’d never thought of applying it to myself until my social worker suggested we do so.

Decision making has never been easy for me. It is something I would rather someone else did for me. Reading that you probably wouldn’t believe that I’m 22 and that I have a child but the aforemention is true. For the sake of my child I am, slowly, learning to make the ‘bigger’ decisions for myself- minus the anxiety.  So over the next few days I shall be brainstorming under my many different hats in order to help myself define my career goals a bit better.

For those of you who don’t know about De Bono’s Thinking Hats head on over {here} to read up. And if you are a dreamer, a procrastinator or just have a problem that is making you all befuddled I reccommend you sit down and think with De Bono- it can’t hurt!